“For all things there is a season……….and a reason.” Think about it! Spent some time with friends tonight that are having to make decisions about feeding tubes, Hospice or not, pain management, restraint or not……….home or not……….and on and on. Decisions having to be made by people (family members and dear friends) as to what is “best” for a dear loved one.
Bottom line question to ask: What would the patient (dearly loved one) really want if he/she could make the decision?
Main Point: ALL PEOPLE SHOULD MAKE THESE KINDS OF DECISIONS BEFORE THE CRITICAL MOMENT ARRIVES!!!!!! PUT THE DESIRES AND WANTS IN WRITING ON PROPER FORMS AND HAVE THEM Notorized! OR AT LEAST VERBALLY TELL FAMILY AND FRIENDS WHAT YOU DO AND DO NOT WANT.
Another important thought: Don’t make a lot of demands as to what must be done or not be done about your funeral or money or property or whatever you are leaving behind. When you are dead, you are dead! Living is for the living! Let those that are left behind do the best they can and not be burdened with all kinds of details!
Hospice is one of the best friends you can have in later years. I took one of the first Hospice Volunteer training courses in the United States over 30 years ago. I did volunteer work for years with Hospice for years before moving on to other groups such as Alzheimer’s groups. Ask your doctors and nurses about Hospice!
“LIVE LIKE YOU ARE DYING!” Great song by Tim McGraw