WIN/Lose?……………OR…. WIN/WIN?

In an alternate world I would hope to see a whole culture set up for WIN/WIN!!!!!

Our whole culture is based on WIN/lose!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sports, Businesses, Religion, Governments, Everyday LIFE and Everyday People.  ME WIN/you lose!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Instead of winning 6 or 7 NASCAR championships  OR 6 Super Bowls OR 5 Hockey Leagues and 5 dogsled races…………..and hanging on until you’re just old and silly like a recent football hero wearing jeans…………WHY NOT:

Experience the thrill of winning maybe even twice………….then either step down and start a completely new adventure or step down and mentor up and comers and get your thrill through their success and not just hanging on trying to extend your winning streak!

Steven Covey…….The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People………….teaches the benefits of a “WIN/WIN” settlement agreement. In that “Alternate or Parallel Universe” there are a lot of happy, content, prosperous, loving and fantastic people living in harmony!

In MY next life…………………..I’m going there!

 

 

 

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Is it EVER a Good Idea to Kill a Human Being ? Part 2…….the Spiritualism Point of View

WOW! Got a lot of response to “Is it EVER a Good Idea to Kill a Human Being Part 1!!!!! And comments as to “Why didn’t you include the “Spiritualistic” Point of view? That’s a good question!!! I approached the subject from a “moralistic” point of view…………now I realize I should have carried the line of reasoning to include “Spiritualism”.

AND SO, HERE IT IS:  (This is another point of view. I’m not trying change the way anybody thinks about this subject………..just to present several points of view and let the reader decide what fits into his/her belief system.)

The moral point of view is based on the history of the human race. The rules, regulations, laws (written and understood as …..doing the right things) have guided humankind for centuries and work well up to a point. It also leaves a lot of questions in the minds of those trying to find peace and understanding while trying to live within the boundaries of moral living.

SPIRITUALISM POINT OF VIEW AN “ALTERNATIVE WAY TO LOOK AT TAKING ANOTHER HUMAN’S LIFE”.

Assume that you believe in reincarnation and that”life on Earth’s sole purpose” is to learn what it means to be separated from your GOD and ALL THAT IS GOOD. 

Note: In previous blog entries I’ve commented on the fact that some people believe that Satan agreed to be the Devil for 2000 years because in order to learn what good is not we must understand what bad is. AND that at the end of the 2000 years when Satan was asked to continue as the Devil, he refused saying that he could not stand another second of being that bad and not in the presence of the “ALL THAT IS GOOD”.

Killing:  If someone gets killed, either someone or something kills them, they kill themselves on purpose or stupidity or lapse of judgement. But by any means the individual is dead. Perhaps “end of the story  OR not”………………

According to some belief systems (religious) bodily death is not the end and life goes on in some fashion. In the reincarnation belief we continue to reincarnate until we learn all of the lessons about what the absence of being with “all that is good” really is and why we don’t want to be left out.

Example: we all play different roles while participating in reincarnation. The “killer” is one side and the “person killed” is the other. So in one life the killer may be the killer so that the other person can get killed and learn the lesson…………..in another reincarnation the rolls may be reversed so that the other can learn the lesson. This scenario is carried out in many different life situations covering all possible lessons to be learned.

 

THE MAIN LESSONS TO BE LEARNED HERE:  

  1. ALLOW ALL PEOPLE TO LIVE THEIR LIVES BASED ON THE CHOICES THEY MAKE. IT IS THEIR LIFE, NOT YOURS…………..LET THEM LIVE IT!
  2. LOOK AT EVENTS THAT YOU ARE AWARE OF IN YOUR LIFE AND REFRAIN FROM JUDGING THEM AS GOOD OR BAD.
  3. REMEMBER THAT THIS LIFE ON EARTH IS NOT THE END OF YOUR BEING WHEN IT IS COMPLETED.
  4. LIVE YOUR LIFE FULLY IN THE BELIEF THAT DIVINE ORDER IS ALWAYS PRESENT WHETHER YOU CAN SEE IT OR NOT.
  5. “IT WILL ALL BE GOOD IN THE END AND IF IT IS NOT GOOD, IT IS NOT THE END.”
  6. DON’T WASTE TIME ON NOT BEING HAPPY! WE ARE MEANT TO BE HAPPY!
  7. “LOVE IS THE ANSWER TO EVERYTHING!

CHOSE TO LIVE!   and live it more abundantly!

Now that’s my story and I’m stick’n to it!  Blessings!

 

 

 

 

 

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Is it EVER justified to kill another Human Being?

YES!    NO!!!!!!!! Well, MAYBE?!!!!!!!  ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!!! You Damn Well Better Believe IT !

BUT…………………………………………………

“THOU SHALT NOT KILL!”  VENGEANCE IS MINE, THUS SAITH!” …………..  

It turns out that the title statement is not a YES or NO question!

Think about it!  Remember, we are talking about human beings………….not other animals.

  1. In the “cave man” days………..it was kill or be killed.
  2. During the feudalism days and similar types of civilization………………it was get together as a group for protection…………but it was usually still ………protect and kill or BE KILLED!
  3. So down through the ages………..we collect together and arm ourselves for protection……..but we are still put in positions where it is kill or be killed.
  4. a.  A crazy (broad definition and sometimes hard to determine) person attacks you ………..do you just stand there and say……Hey, wait just a minute……..don’t you know there is a law that says “thou shalt not kill”! WHAM! You’re dead……….you are right………….there is definitely a law prohibiting it but you’re still the one dead!
    b. You are in the armed forces (just pick one of thousands around the world). And here comes this (crazy person)…..refer back to the definition above…….with a rifle, a bayonet, spear, club, fire poker, etc. (just pick any one here)………should you remind him/her of the law or just kill them right there before they kill you?                                    c. You are in a courtroom and the guy who raped and killed your son or daughter has just been found NOT GUILTY by reason of insanity. Do you stand up and say “I forgive you, you just didn’t know what you were doing?”                                                                           d. You are walking down the street and you see somebody with a backpack and a phone aimed at the backpack obviously going to detonate a bomb. You have a gun and you are too far away to run and stop it……………do you shoot or just stand there and wait to get blown up with the bomb?

WHEN all is said and done.”………………you, we……..all of us are faced with situations where we have to decide (make a decision)….what to do under a certain set of circumstances. YES, WE HAVE A CHOICE……….ALWAYS!  

The only “catch” is that when we choose……………we have to live with that choice! So choose very carefully!

Having talked to people who have killed somebody…………..or witnessed a killing they say You never forget that feeling!!!!!! You can’t understand it until it happens to you……..but when it does, you will never forget the feeling!

Nobody can tell you what to do………….just hope you never have to make that decision.

 

 

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BEST Garden Advice EVER!!!

Do you ever buy and plant all of those plants and some do great and others just sit there and don’t grow OR die within 6 weeks!?

When all of those sellers that plant and sell garden flowers and shrubs prepare them for sale, they don’t plan on you not planting them as soon as you buy them! They expect you to get the plants (replanted) as soon as you get home with them. Well! How many of us can or do that!? 

The potting material in the initial containers is there only to keep the plant alive until you can plant it!…………as soon as you get it home…………OR every day you wait until you do plant it your chances of keeping it alive go down very quickly!

NOW THAT IS A GOOD BIT OF ADVICE BUT NOT  (THE ) BEST ADVICE…………..
SANYO DIGITAL CAMERA1. If you plant early, mid and late tulip bulbs in the same pot you can have a wonderful display of blooms much longer.

2. Mid-South Region…zone 8…I’ve given up on trying to plant and enjoy tulips. Our warm winters (increasingly so) make it difficult to know when to plant the bulbs, so they come up too early and get hit by the frost of die from the early heat! I’m saving these pictures to remember what I used to be able to do with tulips!

 

 

NOW FOR THE BEST GARDEN ADVICE EVER!  When you buy a potted plant of ANY KIND)……..in ANY SIZE container the FIRST thing you should do when you get it home is to press the soil in the container down against the roots!!!!! You will be amazed at how much you can decrease the volume of the potting soil!!!!! (Remember I said that the seller’s plan is to keep the plant alive long enough for you to get it home.) They add water retaining materials to hold the water in and / or the potting soil is not meant to keep the plant alive for a long period of time. Root bound plants that have survived have root systems so packed that they can’t grow unless you cut back the roots and replant.

MAKE IT YOUR ROUTINE TO “SECURE THE DIRT AROUND THE ROOTS” AROUND ALL OF THE PLANTS THAT YOU PLANT! 1ST WHEN YOU PLANT THEM AND 2ND SEVERAL WEEKS AFTER PLANTING AND THE SOIL HAS “SETTLED IN AROUND THE ROOTS”. fOR AT LEAST  (1 YEAR)……go around and press the soil down around all sides of the plant with your foot.  IT will amaze you how many times you will find that you can still pad the dirt down even more around the root system of each plant………..that also is a great idea for potted plants in pots and not in the garden!

Now that above is the best Garden Advice EVER! That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!

HAPPY GARDENING MY FRIENDS!

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Repost of “We mostly hit”…

This post has been the most popular post to my blog in the last 5 years!

Reposting it to bring it back to the front………….see why it must be popular!

Thanks to all of you! Keep reading!   AND Happy New Year!

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In the long run, we only hit what we aim at. Thoreau

Life's Lessons

What does Thoreau mean by that quote?  Sometimes we hit a lot of things that we don’t aim at……………..literally his quotation isn’t completely true!

So what was he “getting at”? The English language (and all others) have so many similar meanings for words and gestures…………even tonal sounds and body language that it’s a wonder we don’t get more confused than we do when trying to understand others! And now with the arrival of Facebook and texting…………..communicating successfully is even more of a challange!

Thoreau’s comment means that what we concentrate on……….focus on……….really believe can happen……………really want to happen…….happens most of the time! Why are some people more successful than others in this exercise? They try harder! They REALLY FOCUS!

So create your own world…………….what do you want? Do you belive you should have it? Do you believe you can get it? Then get it!  Be specific in what you want………….if…

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Scandinavian Authors/Lars Kepler/Stalker

It all started with The Hypnotist and now the 5th book in the series is here!

One of the best marketing tricks in the books is to keep people in suspense and wonder. When the first book came out it was a question as to WHO was the author. Here was a book that is an instant success and a mystery about who wrote the book! Turns out it is a husband and wife team………….check out the book cover for more details.

STALKER is one of the most riveting,  graphic, very disturbing books I’ve ever read! At over 500 pages long it is an in-depth study of how events in a person’s life can cause traumatic psychological damage!  It is disturbing and so entertaining that once you get into the first 100 pages, it is very hard to stop reading and wait until tomorrow to finish it to see who the murderer is! Many clues are given and the murderer could be any of 3 or 4 people…………….I did not pick the right one! And probably you won’t either!

I’ve read THE NIGHTMARE and THE HYPNOTIST and now plan on reading the other two.

LARS KEPLER will continue to write I’m sure………and let’s hope someone will buy the movie rights and make  great movies out of these books!

p.s. If you think you are alone and no one is watching you ……………………you are wrong! You know that feeling you get that makes the hairs on you neck stand up.?…there’s a reason for that. Someone is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now go buy the book!

 

 

 

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