Road Trip! Upper New York State/VA.

Trips away from our everyday routines are good for the soul! IF for nothing else, when you get back you feel like, “Ain’t no place like HOME”……..if you don’t get that feeling when you come back home, you need to make changes in where and how you are living! Just a thought!

After a week of “recovery from 8 hours on the road for several days” the calm feeling of home returned and a good friend asked me to share “the 2 most memorable moments or days of the trip”. Without thinking “out of the blue” I answered:   #1. The 4 hours in upper New York State that I sat on the front porch with a glass of iced tea with a dear friend of mine and shared our views and beliefs about Life’s Lessons. Though we have been “garden friends” for many years, we never realized that we share many of the same beliefs about religion and life. The daytime temperature was 75 degrees with partially sunny skies and a gentle breeze blowing in the friendly trees at the edge of the yard. All things/people are connected by the invisible strings of the Universe and when we take off our blinders and open our hearts we can communicate on a level of complete bliss. # 2. On the last day of the trip before leaving to come back home I spent a whole day of “just letting it happen” with no planning except just showing up with an open mind and a willing spirit. I’ve been practicing with paying attention to relating how I “feel” governing what I do and where I go. This is really an experiment with “living in the moments” and “letting our greater good lead us to the right locations and situations” in our lives. In a way it is another way of meditating. That day was one of the most satisfying and invigorating of my life. TRY IT!

If any body is interested in more details about #1 and #2 shoot me an e-mail and I’ll share more details.

Live in the moments………once they are gone………….they are gone forever.

 

 

 

 

 

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TV Program Alert, People of Earth

People of Earth, TBS Station, now into 3rd episode of 2nd Season……………super funny series with a lot of quirky characters! Comes on in the South at 10:00 p.m. for mature audiences…………..really worth your time! Try to find season 1 and view it first if you can or buy the season 1 DVD……….It could be the “find of the decade”!!!

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Scandinavian Writers Update: Mari Jungstedt….A Darker Sky

Like I’ve said before, “Just as I think I’ve found the last great Scandinavian writer”…….another one or two or three pop up! Incredible! AND true!

After reading 10 of Mari Jungstedt’s books about Gotland………….I got a notice/Amazon that a new book by Mari Junstedt was available! Turns out that she has started a new series with another author, Ruben Eliassen!!!!!! And I had to try it out to see what the change was all about.

As it happens she has made a wonderful change in direction with this new series! It takes place in the Canary Islands………..a much different climate location  than Gotland! The book, A Darker Sky is a different style too (co author being a male) has added some different “slants” to the dialogs and situations.  Short chapters, easy reading, great story line! AND this is the first time I “picked out the murderer half way through the book!!!!!!! I figured out the system! Ha!

You can still feel the whole experience of being where the action/book takes place, it is just a lot warmer than the previous series is…..and I’m making a play on words here; there is a place for “erotic massage” (tastefully done…………..the writing I mean.)

Amazoncrossing, Seattle published the book…………….. Let me know what you think!

LIKE IT OR NOT!?

 

 

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Addendum to The Defining Line Btw Helping and Enabling

Very quickly after I posted the above topic and helping / enabling, a very good friend of mine used the message below by an anonymous person. Some people know that they are enabling and not helping but can’t seem to walk away and let the situations work  themselves out to “what the Universal Choices lead them to make”. C B LOW

LETTING GO
To Let Go is not to stop caring,
It’s recognizing I can’t do it for someone else.
To Let Go is not to cut myself off,
It’s realizing I can’t control another.

To Let Go is not to enable,
But to allow learning from natural consequences.
To Let Go is not to fight powerlessness,
But to accept that the outcome
is not always in my hands.

To Let Go is not to try to change or blame others,
It’s to make the most of myself.
To Let Go is not to care for, it’s to care about.
To Let Go is not to fix, it’s to be supportive.

To Let Go is not to judge,
It’s to allow another to be a human being.
To Let Go is not to try to arrange outcomes,
But to allow others to affect their own destinies.

To Let Go is not to be protective,
It’s to permit another to face their own reality.
To Let Go is not to regulate anyone,
But to strive to become what I dream I can be.

To Let Go is not to fear less, it’s to love more
~Anonymous

If we all could only love more and hate less!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

 

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The Defining Line BTW Helping and Enabling

I keep coming back to this topic!!!!!!!!!!!! And I finally have come to this important defining line (for me at least). Previous blog entries can be found in the archives (right of the blog sheet by month and year).

Background: Almost everybody wants to help a fellow human being when they need help whether it is concerning money, addiction, health issues or just general life situations. A LOT OF TIMES we wind up frustrated and disappointed that 1. We are unable to help them (for whatever reason). 2. We think we know what help they need and alas it isn’t what the person believes is the correct plan for them. SO WHEN DO WE KNOW TO GIVE UP AND LEAVE THE SITUATION?

I know that in some cases I’ve invested months and even years in trying to “help” somebody with problems that they have. They would make “appointments” and come by and talk for hours asking my opinions and suggestions for lines of action. And then on the next visit we would go through the approximately the same issues and suggestions and opinions and NOTHING would CHANGE!!!!!! NOT ONLY WHAT I SUGGESTED HADN’T TAKEN PLACE OR EVEN BEEN TRIED AND NO NEW IDEAS HAD BEEN CREATED BY THE OTHER PERSON……….SO SAME OLD SAME OLD.  Finally I learned that all was a waste of their time and mine. THEY were coming by wanting me to confirm that what they were doing was exactly what they were supposed to be doing.

So I stopped the visits and wished them the best and hoped that they would find exactly what they wanted…..sincerely said and meant!

BUT THE PROCESS WAS SOMETIMES YEARS IN LENGTH AND WITH NOTHING TO SHOW FOR IT ALL!  IT WAS GETTING ME DOWN AND SO SOMETHING HAD TO CHANGE!!! 

RECENTLY I HAD A GREAT INSIGHT AND NOW I KNOW ALMOST FROM THE BEGINNING WHEN MY HELP IS NOT GOING TO BE OF ANY GOOD:

1. NOW WHEN SOMEONE COMES TO ME TO “LET ME KNOW THEY NEED HELP” I LISTEN TO THE COMPLETE SITUATION AND MAKE SOME SUGGESTIONS AND EVEN ENLIST THE HELP OF FRIENDS that might have more expertise than I do. I let the individual go out and “get to work”…………..IF nothing happens after all of the work and suggestions have not HELPED……..

2. I Let it go!  Yep, sounds hard and maybe cruel and you might feel like a failure and a heel……………but BLESS THEM AND LET THEM GO!   AND WHY?

A.   YOU CAN NOT CHANGE PEOPLE…………….NOR SHOULD YOU.

B.   PEOPLE MUST WANT TO CHANGE AND THEIR LIVES WON’T CHANGE UNTIL THEY MAKE THEIR OWN DECISION TO CHANGE…….THEN MAYBE YOUR SUPPORT WILL HELP……………BUT CERTAINLY NOT BEFORE.

C. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYBODY BUT YOURSELF. EACH person has the responsibility for themselves…………..it is THEIR life………….good, bad or indifferent! They know the lessons they need to learn in this lifetime…………and they have the opportunities AND the resources to make choices………..their choices about their lives..so let them choose and LIVE WITH THOSE CHOICES!!!

LET THEM LIVE THEIR LIVES! AND YOU GO AHEAD AND LIVE YOURS!

 

 

 

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“GENIUS”/ National Geographic CH (ALBERT Einstein) Human Being

GREAT TV ALERT!!!!   NG is presenting “Genius”, the story of the life of Albert Einstein…………..Human Being Extraordinaire!

The Theory of Relativity……………the new way to look at our world and all worlds….The Quantum Theory…………..all things are connected.

Great acting, great direction and production, it is a wonderful picture of Albert Einstein as a human being………….that just happened to be one of most creative thinkers that the world of ours has ever known. He lived in a very dangerous time in the European world as a jew, a brilliant mind but had a very difficult personality when relating to other people!

This great series is entertaining, informative and INSPIRING!

Buy the DVD of the series and watch it at least twice…….and then pass it on and share it with others.

YES, IT IS THAT GOOD!  

 

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ROSACEA…….the Devil is in the details!

Whatever you think you know about Rosacea, you’re probably wrong!  Unless you have it!

I’m initiating  a running series of comments, information and first hand experiences with this blog entry!

STAY tuned to learn, share experiences and prepare to help many others out there who don’t know what it is and more importantly that they probably have it!

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